Before It Gets Deep.

Just woke up from a dream about zombies... and my old center where I worked... I was trying to make it to my new location... but a gas was released into the air that turned a lot of the students into zombies... It was a strange dream.. I have a dilemma... I have gone out a couple of times with someone who is a wonderful person... sweet... fun to talk with... easy going.... but she doesn't seem to have much of a sense of humor... at least not to my level... and she seems to be a bit on the uptight side.  Enter girl two.. I went out with last night... she's smart... a bit of a techie like myself.. seems to have a great sense of humor and we started to click... but because she works in DC and gets up at 3:30 each morning we had to cut our date short... I don't know what I think of her yet... but I don't want to be a "player"  ...I don't know if either is going to work out, to be honest... I'm not going out with anyone else until I figure out what's happening there. There just always seems to be something ...missing.  Maybe I'm holding on to the past without realizing it.. The standard was set pretty high... and I'm thinking I'm looking for something with near that feeling ...and not giving it time to grow... that's why I'm still going out with people... hoping that something does develop that "click" that I've known a couple of times.  Could it be that I fooled myself into looking for something that doesn't exactly exist? I really like some of the qualities I find in both of the people I've mentioned... but there is so much lacking in each.... I'm trying to give it a chance... but I'm afraid I'll wind up hurting one or the other... I haven't committed to a monogamous relationship yet, because I don't think a few dates constitutes a relationship. But once I go past a certain point... with one.. I'll have to put the other in the friend zone... if she'll even want to do that.  I won't lead someone on... I don't know where either is going, and with each of them having limited time due to hours of travel... or multiple jobs.. it may take a little time to figure that out. I like to keep an open mind... but I need to figure something out... before it gets deep. 

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