Always.
I've been thinking a lot the last week or so... and have several things on my mind that I am just starting to work through.
If a person tells you they need to be alone.. and then seeks out other people to interact with.. it's not that they need to be alone.. it's just they need to be away from you...
When someone says they're just tired... and then make it a point to push themselves by staying up most of the night.. and refusing to rest.. it's just that they're tired of you.
In times that a person feels like they don't have anything to give.. and you aren't asking anything from them... they just don't want to be around you.
If someone feels like you can't help them... then you are part of the problem....
I think we all have times where we need some time alone... and I do completely understand that... but when it comes down to feeling inadequate that's horseshit... I suppose I have a tendency to smother some people, but its to try to avoid them thinking that they are not enough.. by constant reassurance... I suppose sometimes even that's not enough. Life throws some funny curves at you sometimes... I feel so much in touch with myself.. I know what I want out of life overall... and I don't ask for much... and I'm willing to take each day as I come to it.. and do what I need to do just to make it to the next day. Unfortunately I suppose that I cannot provide enough reassurance for some people. They either think I'm lying... or they need more than I can give. I find it difficult to relate sometimes... especially when no one else knows the answers either.. so that it can be explained to me. I realize how life is...
I was looking over some friendship quotes today..
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out"
-Walter Winchell
"A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else."
- Len Wein
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
- anon
"The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend. I have no wealth to bestow on him. If he knows that I am happy in loving him, he will want no other reward. Is not friendship divine in this?"
- Henry David Thoreau
"A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself."
- anon
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Walk beside me and be my friend."
- Albert Camus (also attributed to Maimonidies)
"Thus nature has no love for solitude, and always leans, as it were, on some support; and the sweetest support is found in the most intimate friendship."
- Cicero
"The happiest moments my heart knows are those in which it is pouring forth its affections to a few esteemed characters."
- Thomas Jefferson
"When friends stop being frank and useful to each other, the whole world loses some of its radiance."
- Anatole Broyard
Keep your eyes upon me, keep me in your sight, Help me don the crooked road, lead me to the light. The road I'm on is dark, I'm not sure if I know the way, Yet with you right beside me, I'm certain I won't stray. Protect me from the world, I know we'll make it through, Give me all the strength I need..... Let me lean on you."
- Megan Stroup
In any sense, I may have difficulties with certain things.. but when I pledge my friendship.. it's always there... no matter what happens. It's not something I quit feeling or pull away just because times get rough. I am glad of those true friends I have made... what few of them I do have... and I will always consider them my friends.. even if they move on.
I've only had 2 or 3 friendships that bond to my soul... those that I know can withstand the test of time... one has even withstood the test of death... I had a friend I met in 6th grade and spent many years with... sure.. we were different.. but we complimented each other. There was very little I wouldn't do for him. I always thought we would grow old together... then about 7 years ago.. he died. January 15, 2004. Sometimes I get to thinking about things and remember things he and I would do together. He contributed so much to my life with the fun times and experiences we shared. The last few years.. I suppose I needed my "space" ...as I got involved in trying to make my life better and pulled away from him. We only saw each other every couple of months.. but each time.. it was as if no time had passed at all.. we took right back up where we left off. That was my best friend.. and even to this day, I can still count on him to be there.. even if only in spirit.
It's hard to find friends like that... ones that don't expect anything of you.. and know that you don't expect anything in return... just a friendly face that you can count on when you need it.. someone you have no doubts about. I have another person like that in my life... that I consider my friend.. and it makes it so difficult to feel like I'm not the one they can depend on to make things better.. to help out when things get tough... I'm the one they need to get away from. I am sorry that I don't understand it... but I will always support my friend. and I said.. once you are truly my friend.. then it's that way.. always.
If a person tells you they need to be alone.. and then seeks out other people to interact with.. it's not that they need to be alone.. it's just they need to be away from you...
When someone says they're just tired... and then make it a point to push themselves by staying up most of the night.. and refusing to rest.. it's just that they're tired of you.
In times that a person feels like they don't have anything to give.. and you aren't asking anything from them... they just don't want to be around you.
If someone feels like you can't help them... then you are part of the problem....
I think we all have times where we need some time alone... and I do completely understand that... but when it comes down to feeling inadequate that's horseshit... I suppose I have a tendency to smother some people, but its to try to avoid them thinking that they are not enough.. by constant reassurance... I suppose sometimes even that's not enough. Life throws some funny curves at you sometimes... I feel so much in touch with myself.. I know what I want out of life overall... and I don't ask for much... and I'm willing to take each day as I come to it.. and do what I need to do just to make it to the next day. Unfortunately I suppose that I cannot provide enough reassurance for some people. They either think I'm lying... or they need more than I can give. I find it difficult to relate sometimes... especially when no one else knows the answers either.. so that it can be explained to me. I realize how life is...
I was looking over some friendship quotes today..
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out"
-Walter Winchell
"A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else."
- Len Wein
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
- anon
"The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend. I have no wealth to bestow on him. If he knows that I am happy in loving him, he will want no other reward. Is not friendship divine in this?"
- Henry David Thoreau
"A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself."
- anon
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Walk beside me and be my friend."
- Albert Camus (also attributed to Maimonidies)
"Thus nature has no love for solitude, and always leans, as it were, on some support; and the sweetest support is found in the most intimate friendship."
- Cicero
"The happiest moments my heart knows are those in which it is pouring forth its affections to a few esteemed characters."
- Thomas Jefferson
"When friends stop being frank and useful to each other, the whole world loses some of its radiance."
- Anatole Broyard
Keep your eyes upon me, keep me in your sight, Help me don the crooked road, lead me to the light. The road I'm on is dark, I'm not sure if I know the way, Yet with you right beside me, I'm certain I won't stray. Protect me from the world, I know we'll make it through, Give me all the strength I need..... Let me lean on you."
- Megan Stroup
In any sense, I may have difficulties with certain things.. but when I pledge my friendship.. it's always there... no matter what happens. It's not something I quit feeling or pull away just because times get rough. I am glad of those true friends I have made... what few of them I do have... and I will always consider them my friends.. even if they move on.
I've only had 2 or 3 friendships that bond to my soul... those that I know can withstand the test of time... one has even withstood the test of death... I had a friend I met in 6th grade and spent many years with... sure.. we were different.. but we complimented each other. There was very little I wouldn't do for him. I always thought we would grow old together... then about 7 years ago.. he died. January 15, 2004. Sometimes I get to thinking about things and remember things he and I would do together. He contributed so much to my life with the fun times and experiences we shared. The last few years.. I suppose I needed my "space" ...as I got involved in trying to make my life better and pulled away from him. We only saw each other every couple of months.. but each time.. it was as if no time had passed at all.. we took right back up where we left off. That was my best friend.. and even to this day, I can still count on him to be there.. even if only in spirit.
It's hard to find friends like that... ones that don't expect anything of you.. and know that you don't expect anything in return... just a friendly face that you can count on when you need it.. someone you have no doubts about. I have another person like that in my life... that I consider my friend.. and it makes it so difficult to feel like I'm not the one they can depend on to make things better.. to help out when things get tough... I'm the one they need to get away from. I am sorry that I don't understand it... but I will always support my friend. and I said.. once you are truly my friend.. then it's that way.. always.
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