I'll Keep My Eye Out

It's been awhile..... again.. I have been somewhat busy, but I just haven't taken the time to blog. Usually I just sit down and start typing... then things come to me. My ex had her surgery. She had a spleen, some of her colon, and a 9cm tumor taken out. She also had 2 ports put in for chemotherapy. She had to have all her childhood diseases as her immune system is now compromised. I told her after surgery to get a pillow and keep it for support over her incision. ...but like when we were married, she gave no thought that I might actually know what I was talking about. I went through the abdominal surgery twice... in the last 5 years. I would have hoped she at least got a second opinion... nope. She ended up busting her stitches and having to have a nurse come out and fix things. I know sometimes (usually) I come across as a know-it-all... I think it's because I actually have been exposed to a lot of stuff. Evidently, I should just work on my delivery. Still... once I say my peace, I am no longer responsible for what people do with the information I delve out. I would like to say that, but I actually do feel badly when terrible things happen to people. Especially if there is something I can do to prevent it. I would like to think that everyone is that conscious of other people. I've said in the past... I'm going to try to do the best I can... for all that I can ... and hopefully, if something comes up where I need assistance, someone will be there for me. I think that maybe I might be too proud a person to actually take someone else's help. Maybe that's what happened with my ex. We all suffer the consequences of our actions... I KNOW I've said that a few times... I have had many negative ramifications due to stupid, or thoughtless decisions I've made. I'm sure I'll have some more. I only hope I have a degree of intelligence to take help if it's being sincerely offered. I think about that a bit. Do some people only offer to help... because they are sure you won't take it? ...Do some people want to feel better... and an insincere word of help gets them through? I certainly hope not, but I do know there are all types of people in this world... and most of us struggle at times to try to do the right thing. It shouldn't be that hard. The golden rule... basically... treat others as you'd like to be treated. I kinda think that doesn't always work. I know I do stupid stuff... and I'm okay with being called out on it. Some people aren't. I had someone where I work today call me (I was teleworking) and wanted to scan some documents but couldn't get the scanner to work. I asked if there was any lights on the scanner? yup... how about on the docking station it was plugged into? nope... so... I said... is it plugged into the wall or a power strip... it took 5 minutes of looking when she said she couldn't figure out which was the power cord. I said again "It will be plugged into a power strip or into the wall outlet. She ended up texting me a picture... the first one didn't help... as it just showed the top view... with the back of the docking station cut off. Finally she sent one... and I said... nope... it's not plugged in... you're looking for a plug with a flat cord.... that goes into a rectangular box... with a circular cord coming out of that box with a slightly larger circular tip that will fit into the back of the docking station opposite where the power switch is... she couldn't find it, so I said... let's just plug it directly into your laptop. Her response made my head hurt. "I don't have my laptop with me, I was just going to use the docking station" ummmmm....ummmm....you need a computer in order to use the scanner. So she made the decision to work on it when she got the chance to pick up her computer from home... Good choice!! I get kinda silly calls all the time, but... that was asinine. She's a manager... kinda scary... I am thinking I need to make some changes in my life, as life is getting into a rut again...but I am not sure what changes need to be made at this point. I'll keep my eye out.