Better Off Without Me In It.

When I read over some of my past blog entries... I feel like I come across as psycho-depressive.  Sure...I'm not as optimistic as I once was... but life tends to do that to people over a period of time.. There really isn't much wrong with me other than having a very cynical viewpoint on life. I don't mean to make it seem like I've been done wrongly.. or that I am never going to function in life.  I know a lot of what I post is about how I am okay.. but I can't stress that enough.  I don't really need much more than I have now.. except maybe a change of scenery with where I am living.  Any one of you who has felt trapped in a room for years and years would probably come across being just as cynical. ...I am not saying I've had it worse off than anyone else.. I'm just saying my experiences have been different... so to judge who I am.. or what I am.. or am not capable of.. is completely unfair.. of course... life is pretty much given to be unfair in the first place... I am dealing with things as I know how... and I make no excuses for who I am. Maybe I appear different than who I have been in the past.. but it is all a part of growing.. learning from our experiences.. Each experience we live through goes to shape who we are.. for good or bad.. we have to deal with everything in our own way.. it is part of what makes us who we are. I am neither happy nor sad about the things I've gone through.. I just accept that things are the way they are.. and the people in my life have been who they are.  There is no reason for me to point blame at anyone except myself.  I chose to see things through rose-colored glasses and didn't open myself up to the bad things... or maybe I did see the bad things.. but thought I could work through them.  This wasn't the case with those people who have moved on with their life... They felt that there was too much to struggle against ...and the benefits with staying in my life weren't worth it. I don't blame them for that.. Each person knows how much they can endure.. or.. at least how much they're willing to try to endure.  I won't ask someone to be a part of my life that doesn't wish to be.. I just have a bit of trouble adjusting at times.. but when all is said and done.. My life will go on.. as will theirs.. I just hope they are better off without me in it.

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  1. Daisy Publications August 26, 2012 at 7:44 AM

    People make choices and we weren't meant to know what goes on in someone's head when they make a choice but their choice to walk out of your life is about them, not you. Everybody is different and it's not about enduring anything, it's about looking at someone as a whole, realizing there are differences and similarities and making a choice that the similarities far outweigh the differences. The problem with online as you have blogged before is that you don't have all the facts in front of you and in order to really see someone, you need to be with them face to face but the bottom line is NOBODY is expendable just different.

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  2. SpecialKAugust 26, 2012 at 8:03 AM

    ...all relationships consist of some struggle.. it doesn't just come easily... no matter what anyone says. Some people aren't willing to put forth the effort.. or endure that struggle.. that's probably closer to the real meaning behind what I'm saying. Life is about endurance... if something is meaningful.. it will endure the hardships... evidently I have been in several relationships where they have not been able to endure the tests of life... maybe it is because we were so different.. I agree that people make choices.. and it's about them... to a certain point.. but part of being in a relationship is that it is no longer about... them.. alone.. but about both people. It is easier for some people to give up on a relationship than to try to make it work.. hence my argument for it not being able to endure.

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  3. Daisy Publications August 26, 2012 at 8:07 AM

    you are right ;) *hugs*

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  4. Babyblue123August 26, 2012 at 1:51 PM

    I wanted to mention...i like what youve done with the colors on your blog...and I do agree with what youve said above also....Hugs!!!

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    1. SpecialKAugust 26, 2012 at 3:09 PM

      Thought it was time for a change... at least a little one.. and of course you should agree.. I'm right... as usual :D

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