We're All Selfish That Way.
Okay... so I awoke with a headache... I RARELY get headaches... I don't think it's a caffeine headache... or lack of water... so something else must be the cause. It seems like a lot of things can go wrong with a person... and sometimes they never even know it. I know that even though we are resilient.... any kind of malady could happen at any time ... with anyone.. and then that is a game changer. We make all these plans.. even if we try to live in the here and now.. we can't help but slightly plan for the future... but who knows what will hit next.. We all try to stay away from heart attack.. stroke.. and definitely cancer... but there are just limited things we have control over.. and even then.. a malady can occur with almost no notice. I think sometimes we just overlook the signs. Our bodies shouldn't hurt... get a little tired, maybe... but I think pain is always a sign something is wrong. I'm not saying that a person should become a hypochondriac.. because most things that happen are things our bodies take care of on its own.. broken bones.... burns.. viruses... we heal and fight off things that don't belong.
I think we fight off people that don't belong in our life too... I believe sometimes we are too stubborn to admit it when something isn't going right... because we say that we want something... anything.. with someone.. and when someone becomes a comfortable part of our lives... we tend to want to keep them in it... even if they bring about stress... and discomfort... not on a physical level.. although that can happen too... but on an emotional level. We tend to overlook the needs of the emotional part of our body... but that's important too. I see all the time where people are verbally abusive to each other... yet they remain together... I might be able to see a few instances where that can be warranted.. but in the grand scheme of things... it takes away an important part of us when we don't put our own mental and emotional health up high on the list of things to address. I think that's why relationships and marriages don't last... when we are dating... or going more general than that... when we are developing a friendship, most people only show the parts of themselves that they want others to see... Over the years... or as time passes, more parts of who we actually are choose to reveal themselves. That's why I stress so much the need for communication and for transparency. I know that sometimes leaves us open... makes us vulnerable... but it also prepares us for a future interaction with someone... I think there is a distinct difference between men and women... I've said this before... Men marry women thinking they won't change... and they do... Women see men and think... okay... so a few things are wrong.. but I can work with this... and expect the men to change... and then wind up getting frustrated when they don't. I'm not saying that a person doesn't change in certain ways... they grow in some areas... but for the most part, men don't change the basic stuff... and we're not all that mature... sometimes we can be... but overall.. nope... we just learn to live like that. So.... these things women see in some guy that you expect to change... don't count on it.... it probably won't happen. ....and guys... if you see many things in a woman that you like.. that you think will always be there... just be prepared to accept that it might change... still most people only change for themselves... not for others... we're all selfish that way.
I think we fight off people that don't belong in our life too... I believe sometimes we are too stubborn to admit it when something isn't going right... because we say that we want something... anything.. with someone.. and when someone becomes a comfortable part of our lives... we tend to want to keep them in it... even if they bring about stress... and discomfort... not on a physical level.. although that can happen too... but on an emotional level. We tend to overlook the needs of the emotional part of our body... but that's important too. I see all the time where people are verbally abusive to each other... yet they remain together... I might be able to see a few instances where that can be warranted.. but in the grand scheme of things... it takes away an important part of us when we don't put our own mental and emotional health up high on the list of things to address. I think that's why relationships and marriages don't last... when we are dating... or going more general than that... when we are developing a friendship, most people only show the parts of themselves that they want others to see... Over the years... or as time passes, more parts of who we actually are choose to reveal themselves. That's why I stress so much the need for communication and for transparency. I know that sometimes leaves us open... makes us vulnerable... but it also prepares us for a future interaction with someone... I think there is a distinct difference between men and women... I've said this before... Men marry women thinking they won't change... and they do... Women see men and think... okay... so a few things are wrong.. but I can work with this... and expect the men to change... and then wind up getting frustrated when they don't. I'm not saying that a person doesn't change in certain ways... they grow in some areas... but for the most part, men don't change the basic stuff... and we're not all that mature... sometimes we can be... but overall.. nope... we just learn to live like that. So.... these things women see in some guy that you expect to change... don't count on it.... it probably won't happen. ....and guys... if you see many things in a woman that you like.. that you think will always be there... just be prepared to accept that it might change... still most people only change for themselves... not for others... we're all selfish that way.
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