In The Right Way

Another weekend comes... and is almost over. That's okay.. there will be more. Many times people are in a hurry to get to the next day... then the next ... and so forth. Most of our life is spent hoping that things will improve. It's like everyone is waiting on something to happen. I've heard several people say... things will change for the better... and I'm a firm believer that they will not change of their own accord... Things only go in the direction you put them into motion, and if you choose not to take an active role in your life, then you can't blame anyone when you get stuck in that rut... I've recently said that there are always repercussions to our actions... and that goes for the good stuff as well as the bad. If someone is living their life the same way they always have, not making any effort, then their life won't get better. Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. I'm a firm believer that this is true. Now in my life, I sometimes coast and see where things take me, but in doing so, I have usually set something in motion. I'm not above making some adjustments in my actions or behaviors if I see my life going in a direction I don't want it go to. But as long as I see my life in a positive advancing state, I like to leave things alone. I was asked recently if I felt the need to revisit some of my past decisions. My answer is almost always going to be a no... I spoke of possible mistakes in an earlier blog, but I also spoke that mistakes are just life lessons in a post on the site. I'm pretty happy with the lessons life has taught me. I'm thankful for what is. I am a pretty self sufficient person. I started watching Virgin River on Netflix and I have to say I like it. It's starting to get a little like a soap opera, but there are some believable scenarios. I recognize some of the places they're referencing as coinciding with the fire detail I was on a couple of months ago. One thing I dislike is the main male character.... I understand the has some PTSD to deal with, but he and his "girlfriend" have been together a couple of years and are on completely different pages as far as a relationship goes. This seems highly improbable... and if it is the case, then they should go their separate ways due to the inability to communicate on both sides of the relationship. Life is going to be difficult enough to get through without throwing that in there. I feel like when I am with someone maybe I am a bit too....spontaneous in what I say or do, because I am a firm believer in throwing my thoughts out there so that being on different pages doesn't happen. I also know that maybe sometimes I'm a bit lacking in tact in how I say things. Which is another reason for keeping the communication open. There is a major issue when you realize that someone can't say what's on their mind... because it's at that point where you can't trust them to tell you the truth. I know there is a huge difference in omission and lying... but in truth, omission is just a passive lie. I've done that myself... avoiding the truth. I suppose in that respect I have a tendency to lie as well... and that sort of bothers me... because two things I detest is passiveness and lying... and omission is both of these. I know that's something I need to work on, and I will do so. But that doesn't change the trust factor. Is part of the omission due to me not asking the direct questions? I think that might be it, but I also have said in the past, don't ask me a question unless you're prepared for the answer. I think everyone believes what they want to believe and then they get upset when it turns out to be something that contradicts their thoughts. I might get mildly annoyed at it myself, but I've always been able to adjust my mode of thought when something is truthful... even if I don't want to agree with it. People live, and sometimes get hurt... but life goes on each day. If we make the effort we can adjust that path in the right way.