It Is About Time.

Divorce isn't all that uncommon these days... but sometimes it is difficult to get the ball rolling.  So many unknowns that go into causing a worrisome mentality about the whole thing.  My spouse and I had a much deeper conversation... apparently, several members of her family have been telling her for some time that they can see we aren't happy.  I think she will have the support of several of them... I just don't know if that will be enough.  I don't want her to suffer.. but being together.. we're both suffering.. and we both know it.. I feel like I am just floating through each day.. trying to wait on things to happen.. but we both know that we have to start taking action.  She is actually looking at getting a job in a town close to my daughters' schools... so that when I move out, they will be able to move into that town and live.  I am not sure what we need to do in order to get things started.. but in reading.. I can move for a legal separation... but that will take a year... I also read though that after 60 days of non- cohabitation... I can file for divorce.. this means even under the same roof... that's definitely a winner in my book.. I'm a non-cohabitating fool.... at least where my spouse is concerned.  She actually brought up the topic tonight.. and we both agree that we can't stay at the point where we are now... I think maybe she was afraid I wouldn't want to talk about it.. she made a pot roast and a decent dinner... I've been making my own meals for the past ...little while..  I am just feeling so much lighter now.. after the talk.. almost.. *gasp* hopeful??  ....it's been difficult for me to keep holding on to hope for as long as I have ...but I see an end in sight... something working its way to becoming a resolution.. and I'm so thankful... it is about time.