I can be superficial.

Sometimes.. just every once in awhile.. someone does something completely unexpected and it takes me off guard.. I believe that basically people are selfish.. they do things for themselves because they have been wronged by so many... that most people believe they have to look out for number one.  I haven't been able to make a determination of the motives of many in my life.. but I can't help but believe that most people have a motive...behind every action.   I've lost most faith that people act in charitable ways just because it's the humanitarian thing to do... I took training yesterday for work.. for SART .. the Sexual Assault Response Team... and one of the things we looked at.. is when people maybe are too drunk to know what's going on.. if it were your loved one being involved.. wouldn't you be just as angry.. or maybe angrier.. at the one that sat by and watched them be abused.. rather than the one doing the abusing.. That sort of got me thinking.. could I just sit still and not get involved in any situation where someone was not being treated fairly.. I would like to think.. no.. The world is a cruel inhumane place sometimes.. and people are mistreated on a regular basis.. it's sad to think that people can be purposely hurtful to others... but still it happens... I'm sorry for any time I have hurt anyone on purpose.  I cannot accept responsibility for times when people have been hurt by the truth.. other than.. I could have been less blunt about it..
But anyway.. I tend to categorize people.. everyone knows about my friend zone.. I got to thinking about that.. and for the most part... and there might be an exception or two.. but I can't think about it... I will not openly or publicly  and aggressively flirt with anyone I feel to not conduct a superficial relationship with... maybe when I first meet them.. but after that.. I keep my interaction on a meaningful level out of public eye.  I used to think that meant you were hiding something... but I now believe that means you feel like it's a special bond that you don't feel like sharing with the rest of the world.. I suppose I can call it my flirt zone... there might be a chance to come out of that.. if a person doesn't get too deep in it... but once they're in it.. I'm pretty sure my mind will keep them there. I was open and extremely public with my ex.. and I believe that is part of what pushed us apart.. that and she just didn't want anything meaningful..  I needed a place where I could just let the flirty side of me go.. and realize that it has no meaning.. so as far as the sites I visit..that is the place..  I can be superficial.