Living With Our Choices.

It's amazing what people can be talked into.. it's like the depiction of the angel on one shoulder.. and the devil on the other.. and it seems like all it takes is just a little influence in one direction or another.. and people falter in their decisions.  I guess it takes just being an asshole at times to get the point across on certain things... That goes against my norm.  I tried to take other's feelings into account at one time... and all that got me was being run all over.  I have decided to stick to my guns when I make a decision... whether it be a good or bad one.. then if things go south.. I still have no one to blame but myself.. no outside influence where I can point the finger at someone else.  I am trying to take responsibility for my own actions.. like an adult.  We all suffer through out temptations.. whether it be... do I eat this?  ...should I go there?  ...would doing this be a good idea?   ...we face so many decisions on a daily basis.. but at the end of the day.. when we look in the mirror.. WE are the one that we have to face.  I sometimes forget that. I don't care how good a person's intentions are... trying to talk someone into something besides what they are intending.. opens a can of worms... sure.. people can blame others for their mistakes.. but we all have options.. I have always said that.  If someone chooses to take a certain course of actions... and the outcome sucks pond scum through a straw... then that person deserves to deal with the issues that arise... only because they didn't have the fortitude to withstand temptation.  In the garden of Eden.. Adam succumbed to the pressures Eve put on him.. just as Eve caved to the influence of the snake... therefore; they were both guilty... not of trying to tempt the other.. but of giving in... the big difference is that they didn't know right from wrong.. If I let my kids dictate how my house is run... then I am to blame for the outcome.  If I let my spouse pressure me into being someone I'm not.. then it's all my fault.  If I let my friends coerce me into actions I don't feel to do... I take credit for the blame.  If I let someone worm their way into my life and make me falter on my decisions not to have a relationship.. I am guilty.  I have my ideology that I try to live by and each time I go against what I believe... I have sinned against myself.  Everyone has a belief structure.. or a religion... part of my spirituality is to remain true to my thoughts and ideas.  Too many times people change who they are.. just because someone else wants that.  I have done that too often in my past.. and I won't do that in my future.  I don't want to grow old with anyone but me.. and even if that doesn't happen.. at least I can change my actions from now until the time I die.. whether it be in 10 minutes or 10 years. I don't want to look back on my life and find out that it was never really my life.. but the accumulation of behaviors dictated by someone else. I am not saying that we can't be open to suggestions.. but most often when we choose a course of behavior... we let someone else change our mind... and then we wind up with strong feelings against that person... when all along.. it should be ourselves that we should hold accountable. I live.. I learn... otherwise.. I end up screwing my life to hell.  My life is bearable.. I have several decisions coming up soon on my horizon.. and whether or not I screw them up... at least I can go through it knowing that I made my choices for me. I sometimes make wrong decisions.. just like everyone else.. it's all about living with our choices.

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