Each of us.. tends to ignore the obvious.

Life is never very simple, is it.. I have been contemplating a whole lot lately.. and I've come to the realization that no matter what happens... I really am not dependent on anyone. I can deal with things as they come along.. and if a person goes out of my life.. I don't seek to replace them with someone else. Too many people will do that... and it shows that they are not as independent as they think they are. Some people will try to bring someone into their life for a replacement even before someone leaves.. that's where a lot of conflicts and bad feelings occur.  I won't ever do that either. I feel as though I'm self-sufficient.. am I the happiest beaver in the dam?  not really.. but then again, I don't get nearly as butt hurt over someone who needs to walk out of my life either.  I really try not to emotionally invest myself in anyone... and it's much safer that way. My path is mine alone.. and where it might intersect.. or travel along the paths of other people on occasion, I am responsible for where it goes.  We all can choose a general direction our lives take.. even if we can't choose all our circumstances.  I am responsible for a lot of my situations..   Like too many people, I have put blinders on and only focused on what I wanted to focus on.  We can't control other people.. nor can we depend on them for too much.. this is the mistake that everyone makes. Yes.. we can get their support.. and we can give support in return.. but when all is said and done.. where are those people in relation to where we are. Most are in their own little world.. and I am in mine.. it's safe here.. I'm still trudging along.. I'm still giving an effort to improving my life... and I can do so without the aid of others.. Those that choose to be a part of my life.. will have to understand.. that I am my own person... I stand on my own.. and what parts of my life.. I choose to share... are MY choice.. I am not a mean person by nature.. but lately.. I know that I have come across as cold and uncaring to several of my friends... I just have to define.. boundaries.. boundaries that I knew existed and have stated existed long ago.. but.. by my actions.. I may be throwing mixed signals.  ...and that is entirely my fault. I am realizing certain things.. and once I've realized something.. I need to be truthful about it. Yes.. maybe I am cold and uncaring.. maybe my analytical side comes out too often.. ..but if we let things build up too long.. without addressing them.. we become resentful.. even spiteful.. and I don't want to be that way.. with anyone.. I have let that occur with my spouse.. and where I'm not ever argumentative or mean.. I am somewhat cold and uncaring there too.. We all have a lack of communication skills.. even if we work at it.  We have ideas in our head.. and we can't see what others are thinking... we choose to ignore what they say for the most part.. to match what we want them to be saying. Each of us.. tends to ignore the obvious.