Everyone has an agenda.

How do we know how what repercussions will arise tomorrow from our actions.  I am atop my tower... watching the world from up here.. I see so much lies and deceit from up here.. I honestly do trust a few people now.. to a varying degree.. I just don't know when they can be sucked into a situation.. or do things they wouldn't normally do... based on misinformation.. or their perception.. I see so many people get tricked.. into making poor decisions.. People are gullible. The world is full of traps and deception. I think sometimes people get the idea that life is a game.. that dating requires intimacy... I see people start into online relationships.. and they figure that the first thing on the agenda is to explore the sexual chemistry... online relationships.. if they're truely ever going to mean anything.. need to be treated like real life.. you don't just jump into bed with someone you are just getting to know..  the online world.. moves at a much slower pace.. as far as being able to figure out who a person actually is.. it moves at a much quicker pace as far as the sexual involvement.. some people figure that because it's not "real".. that it's ok to jump straight into that.. well.. if a person wants to jump into that.. it shows me that it's not really serious.. it shows me that maybe that person is starving for affection and naive to where it may lead. I can't develop a relationship with someone that can't develop things at a slow pace... just like in real life. As much as my mind and my body will react to things they say.. it's still something that I must pace myself on. I have given advice to many of my friends.. in online relationships...and have told them.. be friends first.. see what develops.. still everyone is in such a rush to put a bandaid on the real life relationships.... to make their life better...  they will blindly jump into a relationship with the first person that gives them the attention they're missing. I don't like to say that people are "needy".. but we ALL are.. we desire things in our life.. we want someone to care.. to show us attention.. but.. that isn't love.. that isn't even healthy.. Sooner or later those relationships will falter.. I try to stay atop my tower.. and look down at all of these trainwrecks.. waiting to happen.. Every once in awhile.. we meet someone that is willing to be happy with just being your friend.. not pushing the limits as soon as they can.. that ... to me.. makes me feel more at ease with someone.. if someone cares about me... who I am.. they won't push.. I understand that things happen.. and every once in a while.. we go beyond normal limits.. it's fun to flirt.. it's fun to banter... but.. it's not fun to crash and that's what is eventually going to happen when it gets too superficial.. any strong relationship has to be based on more than just a warm fuzzy feeling.. People tend to forget that no matter how special they think they are.. there are those out there.. just thinking of themselves.. because everyone has an agenda.