Superficiality in my life.
I'm still working early.. in a couple of weeks.. I'll be back to a full 70 hours a week again.... not that it matters much anyway, but... I'm glad of being able to get a little extra money set back. It seems as though my spouse is going through a lot of what I've made anyway. That's something I'm trying to get to work on.. getting her employment. I hope to find something... soon.. (bath)
I think the longer we are in relationships... including friendships.. the more aspects of a person we see. Sometimes things happen that allow us to see people in a completely different light.. not always a good one. I am viewing many people with a renewed cynicism.. I choose to be friends with those in my life.. because they have supported me.. and I've been there for them.... but at some point in time.. there comes a time you have to ask.. why is a person my friend? What reason is someone in your life. Can you trust that person? First of all.. if you cannot trust someone.. no matter how you might feel about them.. you should never consider yourself their close friend. We all tend to do that.. want another person in our life.. that we might be able to lean on... if times get tough. But what about their behaviors.. and actions.. is this something we completely oppose? Sure we can overlook the minor things... but if a person truly believes that things are a certain way.. or their whole attitude is toward something you can't support.. then that person will drift out of your life really without much thought or effort. I am glad of the people I still consider my friends.. that I can usually say I'm proud of the way they handle themselves.. or the way they interact with others. Certainly sometimes, people make mistakes.. or do things that aren't exactly the best course of action.. but then those people will try to atone for their mistakes.. instead of wallowing in the stupidity of their actions.. There are certain people.. whose moral fiber is what I consider... shallow.. and those people I re-evaluate as to whether they are actually my friends or not. I may not know full details.. but it seems as though everyone will justify their actions.. just as I try to justify mine. Over a period of time though.. those people will learn that their actions will put them in a lonely place.. with just a friend or two.. and even those.. won't be real friends.. but only those that will superficially be in their lies.. I have no desire for superficiality in my life..
I think the longer we are in relationships... including friendships.. the more aspects of a person we see. Sometimes things happen that allow us to see people in a completely different light.. not always a good one. I am viewing many people with a renewed cynicism.. I choose to be friends with those in my life.. because they have supported me.. and I've been there for them.... but at some point in time.. there comes a time you have to ask.. why is a person my friend? What reason is someone in your life. Can you trust that person? First of all.. if you cannot trust someone.. no matter how you might feel about them.. you should never consider yourself their close friend. We all tend to do that.. want another person in our life.. that we might be able to lean on... if times get tough. But what about their behaviors.. and actions.. is this something we completely oppose? Sure we can overlook the minor things... but if a person truly believes that things are a certain way.. or their whole attitude is toward something you can't support.. then that person will drift out of your life really without much thought or effort. I am glad of the people I still consider my friends.. that I can usually say I'm proud of the way they handle themselves.. or the way they interact with others. Certainly sometimes, people make mistakes.. or do things that aren't exactly the best course of action.. but then those people will try to atone for their mistakes.. instead of wallowing in the stupidity of their actions.. There are certain people.. whose moral fiber is what I consider... shallow.. and those people I re-evaluate as to whether they are actually my friends or not. I may not know full details.. but it seems as though everyone will justify their actions.. just as I try to justify mine. Over a period of time though.. those people will learn that their actions will put them in a lonely place.. with just a friend or two.. and even those.. won't be real friends.. but only those that will superficially be in their lies.. I have no desire for superficiality in my life..
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