That Is Integrity.

Integrity... I've posted a few posts on it.. and I firmly believe.. integrity is not only determined on our actions... for the most part.. but about as much on our ability to realize our transgressions.. and learn from them. I know I've done many things that I shouldn't have done.. and I can't change that.. but several things I would have handled differently.  Most everything would still have the same outcome.. and when I say thing would have been handled differently.. I don't mean that I wouldn't push people out of my life.. I still would.. I just might have been more direct and more tactful at it.  I am where I am.. because I want to avoid the drama.. and for the most part.. I have leaned toward a completely drama-free life.  I suppose that's the biggest advantage to not having a relationship.  I also understand that certain people tend to gravitate toward drama... and I don't want that to be me. We all have an idea of how we want our lives to run.. and mine is just getting penciled in as I go along.. nothing is permanent... and I don't look for anything to be set in stone for a long time.

I still hear things from people... most of which I cut off as soon as I find out they have nothing to do with me...because I really don't care.  Those people who are a part of my life.. are here in my life because they want to be.. I have never.. and will never seek to make someone a part of my life that doesn't want to be there.. and if they have nothing meaningful to contribute.. go away... I don't have the strength to live my life and worry about someone else's life.. I am responsible for me.. and  my actions.. and I do apologize to the people I have wronged.. that doesn't mean I want any of you back in my life.. that just means that I may have acted inappropriately due to my need to deal with what I considered a crisis in my life.  I will always do what's best for me.. as I expect everyone else to do what's best for them... especially if you have indicated that you no longer wish to be a part of my life.. at least in any significant factor.  I know I do things I shouldn't.. and I will continue to do so.. but I do feel badly about some of the things I did.. not that I would change the outcome.. but I learn from my mistakes and try not to transgress into anyone's life more than necessary.. to me.. that is integrity.

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