That's Where All The Bullshit Ends.
“Affection would not be affection if it was loudly and frequently expressed; to produce it in public is like getting your household furniture out for a move. It did very well in its place, but it looks shabby or tawdry or grotesque in the sunshine.” - CS Lewis
That's another quote that I ran across.. again from CS Lewis. I made a mistake in discussing him.. and was thinking of Sinclair Lewis who wrote Alice In Wonderland. I thought I recalled him being under the influence of drugs.. but as I said.. I made a mistake.. it happens.. just not very often ;)
What I take this to mean... I am all for PDA.. public displays of affection for those of you not familiar with the term.. but I've run across people out in public who are all but fornicating in front of everyone. I always tried to walk hand-in-hand with someone I cared about.. a kiss in public is definitely something I wouldn't have a problem with.. but as the quote says.. once it passes a certain level.. it's "shabby or tawdry or grotesque." I remember my uncle's father-in-law and mother-in-law.... he drove a pickup truck.. and I always saw them riding down the road.. even in to their 60's... and it looked like the "two-headed monster" was driving.. but that was nice to see.. that even as many years as they were together... it was a simple display.. and all the world could see it.. but they didn't ride like that for anyone else to see.. it is just what made them happy. One could argue that the standards are pretty much like that almost anywhere.. but then you run across people who all they can do.. is proclaim their undying love... I was like that.. and I was an idiot. I think part of why I kept proclaiming it in public.. was that I was too insecure with the relationship.. and needed to reassure myself as well as my partner.. The most stable relationships I've ever known.. wasn't about what was said or did for other people.... My Dad and my mom.. were together 46 years... before my mom died... and in that while.. I may have seen Dad kiss Mom once.. or twice.. but I always knew they loved each other.. it's so evident now.. to see Dad grieve.. there could be no doubt in anyone's mind.. but they didn't have to live in a constant reminder state... They were just there for each other... until the end.. and it never would have ended if Death hadn't separated them. Even now... I know Dad will never love anyone as much as he loves my Mom.. Some people think others should move on.. but I'd never tell anyone to do that.. they should follow what is placed in their heart. My parents were prime examples of something that worked for them... and their love was private and shared between the two of them. It wasn't something they had to get reassurance from the outside world.. My whole outlook on life is that the strongest emotions aren't ones that have to be spoken.. they're shown in one's actions. If you need to profess things... just so other people can know it.. It's not that strong. I'm not saying that someone shouldn't say I love you... and even say it in front of other people.. but not to say it FOR other people. I was stupid in my thoughts when I was on the sites.. I wanted everyone to know what I had.... maybe because I needed to feed my ego. If I were smart about it.. I would have taken what I had.. and left the sites.. free from outside influence.. free from the superficiality that comprises most of what takes place. But I suppose it was best that I didn't.. for whatever I had.. wasn't strong enough to withstand the test of time.. I can look back and lament for a short bit.. but in spite of everything, I guess I am better off as I am now... I would hate to have been stuck in something that was born of desperation. Most anyone on the sites.. had fallen to that state.. to seek something that they felt their world was missing. I had a conversation with someone about the reasons people go to the sites.. and unfortunately... most of it boiled down to a fantasy... women and men aren't much different in what they seek... they just go about it in different ways.. It's what makes each gender unique. I couldn't fall into that pattern.. just as there are people before me who left.. because they wouldn't fall victim to that line of thinking. Those are the strong ones.. they.. like myself.. have realized that it is so easy to talk yourself into idiotic actions if you immerse your life into the fantasy. Sooner or later though... everyone has to wake to reality.. and that's where all the bullshit ends.
That's another quote that I ran across.. again from CS Lewis. I made a mistake in discussing him.. and was thinking of Sinclair Lewis who wrote Alice In Wonderland. I thought I recalled him being under the influence of drugs.. but as I said.. I made a mistake.. it happens.. just not very often ;)
What I take this to mean... I am all for PDA.. public displays of affection for those of you not familiar with the term.. but I've run across people out in public who are all but fornicating in front of everyone. I always tried to walk hand-in-hand with someone I cared about.. a kiss in public is definitely something I wouldn't have a problem with.. but as the quote says.. once it passes a certain level.. it's "shabby or tawdry or grotesque." I remember my uncle's father-in-law and mother-in-law.... he drove a pickup truck.. and I always saw them riding down the road.. even in to their 60's... and it looked like the "two-headed monster" was driving.. but that was nice to see.. that even as many years as they were together... it was a simple display.. and all the world could see it.. but they didn't ride like that for anyone else to see.. it is just what made them happy. One could argue that the standards are pretty much like that almost anywhere.. but then you run across people who all they can do.. is proclaim their undying love... I was like that.. and I was an idiot. I think part of why I kept proclaiming it in public.. was that I was too insecure with the relationship.. and needed to reassure myself as well as my partner.. The most stable relationships I've ever known.. wasn't about what was said or did for other people.... My Dad and my mom.. were together 46 years... before my mom died... and in that while.. I may have seen Dad kiss Mom once.. or twice.. but I always knew they loved each other.. it's so evident now.. to see Dad grieve.. there could be no doubt in anyone's mind.. but they didn't have to live in a constant reminder state... They were just there for each other... until the end.. and it never would have ended if Death hadn't separated them. Even now... I know Dad will never love anyone as much as he loves my Mom.. Some people think others should move on.. but I'd never tell anyone to do that.. they should follow what is placed in their heart. My parents were prime examples of something that worked for them... and their love was private and shared between the two of them. It wasn't something they had to get reassurance from the outside world.. My whole outlook on life is that the strongest emotions aren't ones that have to be spoken.. they're shown in one's actions. If you need to profess things... just so other people can know it.. It's not that strong. I'm not saying that someone shouldn't say I love you... and even say it in front of other people.. but not to say it FOR other people. I was stupid in my thoughts when I was on the sites.. I wanted everyone to know what I had.... maybe because I needed to feed my ego. If I were smart about it.. I would have taken what I had.. and left the sites.. free from outside influence.. free from the superficiality that comprises most of what takes place. But I suppose it was best that I didn't.. for whatever I had.. wasn't strong enough to withstand the test of time.. I can look back and lament for a short bit.. but in spite of everything, I guess I am better off as I am now... I would hate to have been stuck in something that was born of desperation. Most anyone on the sites.. had fallen to that state.. to seek something that they felt their world was missing. I had a conversation with someone about the reasons people go to the sites.. and unfortunately... most of it boiled down to a fantasy... women and men aren't much different in what they seek... they just go about it in different ways.. It's what makes each gender unique. I couldn't fall into that pattern.. just as there are people before me who left.. because they wouldn't fall victim to that line of thinking. Those are the strong ones.. they.. like myself.. have realized that it is so easy to talk yourself into idiotic actions if you immerse your life into the fantasy. Sooner or later though... everyone has to wake to reality.. and that's where all the bullshit ends.
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